"If one has no vanity in this life of ours, there is no sufficent reason
for living." Leo Tolstoy

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Ciroc: Luck Be A Lady


Crazy, Stupid, Love: Jacob Palmer

Jacob Palmer, is a thirtysomething guy who successfully beds women each night and he has an amazingly charimatic style and flare. He prefers custom-made suits and double-breasted business suits, colorful ties and pocket squares, perfect Dior V-necks, gorgeous Gucci pants, Givenchy wingtips and a pair of beautiful black YSL shoes that he wore a lot of. He also had a pair of Marc Jacobs boots and a pair of grey Prada shoes. He finished his look with a stylish Persol-style pair of sunglasses and a beautiful ring on his right hand. Jacob is what all men either where or have strived to be at one time in their life, all before marriage and kids of course...lol.

Too Many Single Women?

You want to get married. It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor.
You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box.
Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother's wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride -- she was so effing happy -- and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you're not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering... Deep, deep breath... Why you're not married.
Well, I know why.
How? It basically comes down to this: I've been married three times. Yes, three. To a very nice MBA at 19; a very nice minister's son at 32 (and pregnant); and at 40, to a very nice liar and cheater who was just like my dad, if my dad had gone to Harvard instead of doing multiple stints in federal prison.
I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married. Growing up in foster care is a big part of it. The need for security made me look for very specific traits in the men I dated -- traits it turns out lead to marriage a surprisingly high percentage of the time. Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships -- someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.
But I won't lie. The problem is not men, it's you. Sure, there are lame men out there, but they're not really standing in your way. Because the fact is -- if whatever you're doing right now was going to get you married, you'd already have a ring on it. So without further ado, let's look at the top six reasons why you're not married.
1. You're a Bitch.
Here's what I mean by bitch. I mean you're angry. You probably don't think you're angry. You think you're super smart, or if you've been to a lot of therapy, that you're setting boundaries. But the truth is you're pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it's scaring men off.
The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them. I am the mother of a 13-year-old boy, which is like living with the single-cell protozoa version of a husband. Here's what my son wants out of life: macaroni and cheese, a video game, and Kim Kardashian. Have you ever seen Kim Kardashian angry? I didn't think so. You've seen Kim Kardashian smile, wiggle, and make a sex tape. Female anger terrifies men. I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man's fear and insecurity in order to get married -- but actually, it's perfect, since working around a man's fear and insecurity is big part of what you'll be doing as a wife.
2. You're Shallow.
When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man's character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you're not married, I already know it isn't. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit.
Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Or someone who knows what an Eames chair is. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.
3. You're a Slut.
Hooking up with some guy in a hot tub on a rooftop is fine for the ladies of Jersey Shore -- but they're not trying to get married. You are. Which means, unfortunately, that if you're having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin -- it doesn't stay recreational for long.
That's due in part to this thing called oxytocin -- a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an orgasm -- that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It's why you can be f**k-buddying with some dude who isn't even all that great and the next thing you know, you're totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that's how it happened. And since nature can't discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you're going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.
4. You're a Liar.
It usually goes something like this: you meet a guy who is cute and likes you, but he's not really available for a relationship. He has some condition that absolutely precludes his availability, like he's married, or he gets around town on a skateboard. Or maybe he just comes right out and says something cryptic and open to interpretation like, "I'm not really available for a relationship right now."
You know if you tell him the truth -- that you're ready for marriage -- he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don't want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don't want to get in a relationship at all! You swear!
About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don't tell him that. That's your secret -- just between you and 22,000 of your closest girlfriends. Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can't live without you. I have news: he will never "figure" this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn't be lying to him in the first place.
5. You're Selfish.
If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don't have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy -- or at least a guy with a really, really good job -- would solve all your problems.
Howevs, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: Bitch, hello! It's not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say -- if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.
6. You're Not Good Enough.
Oh, I don't think that. You do. I can tell because you're not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job.
Here is what you need to know: You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don't know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won't love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.
I see this at my son's artsy, progressive school. Of 183 kids, maybe six have moms who are as cute as you're trying to be. They're attractive, sure. They're just not objects. Their husbands (wisely) chose them for their character, not their cup size.
Alright, so that's the bad news. The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something -- it's about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession -- a free-agent penis -- and for us, it's the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.
The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don't deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway -- because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self -- you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along: Love.
-Tracy McMillian, Huffingtonpost.com

Cologne: Zara For Him

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Saturday, September 17, 2011

"The Bachelorette"

Her Condo
Ladies also make things happen for themselves just as gentlemen do.

Man Bag

No matter what you call it; man bag, murse (man purse) or briefcase it is part of many peoples dail esemble.

Friday, September 16, 2011

Mayweather vs. Ortis

No matter who wins, Floyd will probably take home triple!

Justin Theroux: Fall Beard

Paul Bunyan's beard goes perfect with fall leaves and pine trees.

Tweed Suit

With fall in full swing, it time to dress in layers and wear heavier materials.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Workplace Affairs

Affairs in the workplace by married people that engage in infidelity find that the workplace or office setting has become a prime meeting place. The work environment allows the people to begin to know one another. Their workplace provides the perfect cover for interaction through travel, longer work hours and company functions to help nurture the workplace affair along. This unavoidable contact and interaction of a coed workplace for some cheaters find that their friendship turned into more than a business relationship. Often, the cheaters attempt to rationalize the relationship by thinking that they did not realize how far things have gotten until sex became a part of the relationship. Workplace cheaters often try to rationalize their actions by believing that it is common in the organization or that it is acceptable in today's society.

Many workplace affairs start out as casual friendships that develop over time. These friendships/Cheating Workers usually become very strong and start to have emotional ties. A common theme for the development of an affair in the workplace is that they feel that the co-worker understands them better than their spouse. They are free to discuss their problems with the co-worker, who in turn provides them with comfort and understanding. The co-worker can empathize with them and provides the comfort that they would not feel at home. This type of interaction makes the other co-worker even more appealing.

Workplace affairs can have devastating effects. It is not uncommon now days to turn on the television or read the newspaper and hear of stories involving affairs in the workplace. According to statistics, 46% of unfaithful wives and 62% of unfaithful husbands have had affairs with someone in the workplace. Other statistics report that about 80% of men and women have fantasies about other co-workers. Christmas parties, Valentines day, picnics and other company functions provide opportunities to discover if a workplace affair is taking place.

Business relationships can prosper when a cheating spouse has the opportunity to travel regularly for business. When the cheating spouse travels with his co-worker, they are given an opportunity for indiscretion that they feel will not be detectable. They are far from home and other workers and usually are able to let their inhibitions and guard down. The cheaters have found themselves on an all expense paid trip where they can enjoy the sights and meals together. If the spouse attends a convention or out of town business meeting, this provides them the perfect opportunity to meet someone at the location or find someone to have a quick affair with. Just look at your local phone book, many escort services are advertised there. Also, cheaters have an opportunity to look for prostitutes while on business trips.

World's Richest Man Buys Duke-Semans Mansion for $44 Million

It seems there was something a bit dodgy about the record $44 million sale of the famed Duke-Semans mansion (above) in New York City to Carlos Slim, the world's richest man, which we wrote about back in July. According to a lawsuit filed by the real estate brokers who had the listing on the palatial residence, former owner Tamir Sapir stiffed them out of nearly $1 million in commission by reneging on a prior agreement to sell the place to a different buyer for $37 million. Since Sapir, a cab driver-turned-fertilizer king, did the deal with Slim directly he ended up paying no brokerage fee, the New York Times reports, noting that the parties have just reached a settlement in the dispute for an undisclosed amount. Sapir bought the historic seven-story Beaux Arts mansion located across from the Metropolitan Museum of Art from relatives of Doris Duke for $40 million in 2006. When Slim took possession the 20,000-square-foot mansion, built in 1901, it had a doctor's office in the basement, a five-story main residence, a penthouse duplex on top, 12 bedrooms, 14 bathrooms, and 11 wood-burning fireplaces.-Jared Paul Stern,(www.luxist.com)

Alex Sapir: Forget Wall Street, these kids chose real estate

Ten years ago, New York City real estate was a business dominated by older, mature women selling apartments and even more mature men building them.

Now, it's not uncommon for twenty something real estate agents to rake in more than $1 million a year or 26-year-old developers to lead teams of hundreds building skyscrapers in New York's top neighborhoods. Kids straight out of college are choosing real estate over investment banking as a career.

"I remember when I was the young one," says Donald Trump, the world's best-known developer, who built the Grand Hyatt Hotel on top of Grand Central Station when he was just 30. "Young real estate professionals bring flair, style, hard work and enthusiasm to the industry. My kids just took to it. They really understand the international game."-DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Angels On Earth

Proof that God does exist, thank you God...no really thank you!

Pretty Women x Baseball Caps

There is someting about a girl with a tom boyish side. Here is the #rule, "women can wear men style clothing (suits, hats, pants..etc) but men should never wear women style clothing (blouses, heels, leggings..etc)."

Feel good music: Common "Next Time"

Vibe to it.....

Black Wall Street

Greenwood was a district in Tulsa, Oklahoma. As one of the most successful and wealthiest African American communities in the United States during the early 20th Century, it was popularly known as America's "Black Wall Street" until the Tulsa Race Riot of 1921. The riot was one of the most devastating race riots in history and it destroyed the once thriving Greenwood community.

During the oil boom of the 1910s, the area of northeast Oklahoma around Tulsa flourished, including the Greenwood neighborhood, which came to be known as "the Negro Wall Street" (now commonly referred to as "the Black Wall Street")The area was home to several prominent black businessmen, many of them multimillionaires. Greenwood boasted a variety of thriving businesses that were very successful up until the Tulsa Race Riot. Not only did African Americans want to contribute to the success of their own shops, but also the racial segregation laws prevented them from shopping anywhere other than Greenwood. Following the riots, the area was rebuilt and thrived until the 1960s when desegregation allowed blacks to shop in areas that were restricted before.

The buildings on Greenwood Avenue housed the offices of almost all of Tulsa’s black lawyers, realtors, doctors, and other professionals. In Tulsa at the time of the riot, there were fifteen well-known African American physicians, one of whom was considered the “most able Negro surgeon in America” by one of the Mayo brothers. Greenwood published two newspapers, the Tulsa Star and the Oklahoma Sun, which covered not only Tulsa, but also state and national news and elections.

Greenwood was a very religiously active community. At the time of the riot there were more than a dozen African American churches and many Christian youth organizations and religious societies.

In northeastern Oklahoma, as elsewhere in America, the prosperity of minorities emerged amidst racial and political tension. The Ku Klux Klan made its first major appearance in Oklahoma shortly before the worst race riot in history. It is estimated that there were about 3,200 members of the Klan in Tulsa in 1921 .

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